It’s About Time
Why is it so hard for us to take time for ourselves?
Well, it’s about time.
I find myself struggling to relax and take time for myself, even as I am heading into the holidays with several days off and more time than ever to slow down and focus on me. My children are grown, fully independent and thriving. My parents are now in their late 70’s and still healthy. We no longer have a pet after having to say good-bye to our beloved dog of 15 years. And still, I find it hard to take time for myself.
It’s no surprise that women struggle to take time for themselves. Recent findings from a survey conducted by Hologic-Gallup in April 2024, found that six in ten U.S. women find it hard to prioritize their health. Another study by Birchbox found that only 32% of women consistently make time for self-care. And when we do make time, 24% of those women feel guilty about it. Research also shows that when women neglect their own health and wellbeing, it can negatively impact their ability to care for others.
There are many reasons we find it so hard to take time for ourselves, most are deeply rooted in societal norms, personal expectations, and the realities of life.
Women are socialized to prioritize the needs of others. Taking time for ourselves can feel selfish.
Typically, caregiving responsibilities have fallen to women, leaving little time for self-care.
Women have been told that we can “have it all”, reinforced by social media, creating the pressure to be “perfect”.
Women historically have a disproportionate share of the household responsibilities, even with both partners working full-time.
Often, I find it easier to do things for others than for myself. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s actually benefiting those around you in several ways. There is actually MORE evidence to support the reasons women should take time for themselves.
When you rest, you recharge. This allows you to be more present in your relationships and responsibilities.
Taking time for yourself helps manage stress and balance emotions.
By prioritizing time for yourself, you set an example for others about the importance of maintaining balance and wellbeing.
You are less resentful if your own needs are met.
You help others be more independent and develop confidence by not relying on you for everything.
Even when we know what needs to be done, it can still be hard to do it. How do we make time? Making time for yourself will require change, and change is never easy. But it can be easier when you have support. I have found that having a coach is the best way to help change. A coach provides support, accountability, and structure on the path to self-care and better wellbeing. Someone who has your best interest at heart and is un-biased and will keep you accountable week after week until you reach your goal. A coach can help you take action and prioritize yourself.
Isn’t it about time for you?
